A letter to me 25 years ago, from me. Inspired by the new book Graceful
by Emily P. Freeman.
How are you doing? It is me, or rather you in 25 years. Just think Back to the Future and we will be fine. I’m writing you this letter because I am reading a book that I think you would love. It is written by a girl who is an awful lot like us. In fact, she grew up in Columbus. But the good news is she moved away before she went to East High School, so it is totally okay for us to like her. She has a lovely way with words and I know they would speak right to your heart.
The name of the book is called Graceful and it is all about letting go of your try hard life. Don’t you just love the title? Wouldn’t it be awesome if people said that about you and me? Instead, they say things like…
And we spend a whole lot of time trying to live up to what they think and say. The truth is, I know you are tired of trying to be the person they think you are. Since rebellion is not really your thing, you keep doing what is expected.
So back to my friend Emily. In her book she says, “The energy it takes to live for you is killing me—to see me through your eyes, to search for myself in your face, to be sure you are pleased with me. I want you to always be pleased with me,” (Graceful, pg 20). See, I told you she was a lot like us!
What about God? How does He want us to live? Listen to how Emily puts it:
“There is a different way to to live, a way that is full of grace and mystery, a way that cannot be outlined or studied for or figured out. Life isn’t about trying hard to be good, it’s about trusting God to be graceful in us,” (Graceful, pg 13).
Girl, you are graceful. God says so.
You are “specially marked by God’s divine grace,” (Graceful, p14).
Can you wrap your home-permed head around that fact? You are specially marked by God with grace. He sees you and He whispers…Graceful. Amazing, right?
Check this out. I found this verse in Ephesians 2:8,9:
“For by grace you have been saved through faith. And it is not your own doing; it is the gift of God,” (ESV).
See, since you can’t read all of Emily’s words, you will have to go straight to her source. God tells us that we were saved by grace. And we move on from there. You don’t work toward grace. You move from it. You are grace(ful) from the beginning of your relationship with Him. And the sooner you believe that, the easier life will be for the both of us. This is the game changer for all of us good girls. You can’t get more graceful than you already are.
So, let it go of the fear of failure that dominates your life. Forget trying to please everyone and be all they think you are. Instead, lean heavy, into the arms of God who has marked you with grace and calls you His own. The One who calls you Graceful is ready to wrap you up in nothing but love.
And breathe deep all that is Graceful.
To get your copy of Graceful: Letting go of the Try Hard Life, click here.
***I’d love to give away a copy of this wonderful book. Tell me what you think of when you read the word Graceful…
I’ll choose a winner from the comments left below. Winner will be posted Friday.
(I was given a copy of Graceful for the purpose of review. The fact that I love it is because I’m a huge fan of Emily’s and a good girl in search of daily reminders of who God says I am.)