A Tradition Worth Keeping

The light of our Christ Candle flickered in their faces as we talked about Emanuel, our God with us  born on Christmas day.  Once we were gathered around the tree  I asked them the question, “What Does God want for Christmas?”  The question hung in the air for a few moments and finally the answer we had been building up to for weeks was spoken.

He wants me. ” said my four year old.

I am always looking for ways to bring purpose and meaning to our family time during the Christmas season. A few years ago, I found a tool called, “What God Wants for Christmas.” I  love the way it involves my girls in the Christmas Story and the fun it brings to our own ABC Advent. { It is produced by FamilyLife, you can read about it, here}.

This year, I was was inspired by a book called “The King’s Christmas List.” This book by Eldon Johnson, tells the story of a little girl invited to the king’s birthday celebration.  Once she arrives, she notices that everyone is giving gifts to each other and no one has a gift for the king {you can find this resource, here}.  She realizes this is not right, but herself has nothing to offer…or so she thinks.

This year, I combined both of these tools and challenged my girls in a new way:

  • First, we want to give God our hearts.  To allow Him to live there and make us the kind of people He wants us to be.
  • Second, we can give Him our time, talents, and money to be used by Him how He pleases.
  • Third, we asked them to give up a couple of small presents they normally received and instead take that money and give to the ministry of their choice as a gift for Jesus. We asked them to keep it a secret from everyone (except me because I was in charge of making the gift happen).
  • Next, I asked them to wrap up a tiny box with something that would symbolize the ministry they chose and place it under the tree.
  • Finally, during our last ABC Advent celebration on Christmas Eve, they opened  their box and revealed to everyone where they gave their money.

I can’t tell you how sweet it was to see them open these gifts and share what ministry they chose and why. They were so excited to share about the gift they gave.  Hands down, it is the most precious thing we did all Christmas season. It was so simple, yet is spoke volumes to my girls and the adults present. It is a new tradition that we will bring back next year and hopefully build upon.

Today I am linking up with MODsquad and sharing this story. If you would like to read about how other mom’s and their families gave back this Christmas, you can do so by clicking the button below!  I’d also love to hear about what you did to give back, too. Leave a comment below and tell me what you did this Christmas to give in Jesus name.

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Taking Back Christmas And A Winner

Thank you so much for joining me for the Family Devo Challenge!   I hope you will think through your Christmas list and give this wonderful resource (Jesus Calling) to the kids in your life!  The winner of the set of  both books is Danielle from This Life I Live! {If you haven’t stopped by her blog and read about her sweet family, I would highly encourage you to do it!  Such a beautiful story! } So glad you won Danielle!

Today, I’d love to invite you to join me at the MODsquad Blog for another challenge called The King’s Christmas List :: Taking Back Christmas. You can click the button below to read this post.  And tomorrow, you will want to stop back by 29lincolnavenue for an answer to the question, “Why do we celebrate Christmas?” with two my very special friends! {your kids will love this!}.

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Creating Margin

Flickr Photo Credit Adreanna Moya Photography

How do you create margin in your life?

This is a question I have to continually ask myself as a wife and mother of four busy girls. Margin is being purposeful to create time and space to renew your heart. I could (and do most days) move non-stop, with little time for margin in my life.   The result is not pretty.  I become a shell of myself and quite frankly no good to my family, friends or myself for that matter.

Last year, I read the book called Strengths Finders and took a short online test that identified my  strengths.  My top strength theme was Relator which means I am drawn toward people and I enjoy developing deep relationships with them.    The book says this about being a relator, (p147)

No matter how busy you are, stay in contact with your friends.

They are your fuel.

So, when I am feeling overwhelmed and worn out by the business of life, the margin I need to make involves 3 key types of friendship:

  1. Quiet Time With The Lord – My most important friendship is with Jesus.  I must spend time with Him each day, studying my Bible and praying.  It simply makes it possible for me to face each day.  This usually happens in the morning before everyone gets up.  I have finally come to a place in my life where my time in the morning with my best friend is more important than sleep.
  2. Time With My Husband – When we are not on the same page relationally, I am quickly drained.  We need to spend focused time together talking, planning, dreaming and encouraging one another.  One thing I have realized lately, is that it is important for us to go out on real dates.  Sometimes, we can catch time together after the kids go to bed.  But, I think at this stage of our lives with small children, going out on dates is life giving to me.
  3. Time With One or Two Close Friends – Though I am comfortable with a larger group of friends, I feel most energized when I am spending time with one or two close friends.  There is something about sharing real conversation across the table, preferably while eating a piece of Oreo cheesecake that encourages my heart.

I have found when I am being purposeful to make sure these 3 types of friendships are happening in my life – I am functioning at my best.  It is not always easy to make these things happen.  But, I learned a very important lesson this summer.  I hired a babysitter for 3 hours each Wednesday from 12:30 – 3:30 pm.  I went to Panera, and usually met my husband for lunch.  When he left to return to work, I would write or pray.  In just a couple of weeks my attitude was greatly changed. I so valued this time.  And I came away refreshed.  Currently, I am struggling with finding this same type of margin in my schedule.  But, I am committed to finding something that works!

How about you?  How are you finding margin in your life?  What refreshes you?  Today at the MODsquad, other moms are answering this question, too!  Just click the link below to read more!

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Beautiful Feet

The first thing I remember doing when they handed me {each one of } my brand new baby girl, was unwrapping the blanket and looking at her tiny feet.  Still inked from leaving her first imprint on the world, those toes wiggled their way into my heart. Thousands of kisses and painted toenails later I wonder where those beautiful feet will take her?  Will she walk with Jesus and leave His peace wherever she goes?  Is she going to stay on the path of righteousness?  Who will she run to in times of trouble? Join me at the MODsqaud blog today as I share about Praying for Your Daughter’s Feet.

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Parenting On Purpose

I don’t know about you, but lately I have found myself in constant motion.  I move from one thing to another – one need to another – until I collapse into bed each night.  Life is moving dreadfully fast. Wasn’t it yesterday that my oldest was sitting in the shopping cart gazing into my eyes?  Now she stands toe to toe with me and meets me eye to eye.  So how in the world do we stop even for just a minute or two and be moms of purpose?  Join me at the MODsquad blog today as I share my heart about praying we will be moms of purpose!

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Puberty, Purity, and Being Brave

Hello.  My name is Stacey and I am a seasoned indirect communicator.  I say things like this to my kids:

“It would be really great if you would clean your room.”

I hear myself saying this and know that they hear “suggestion” not “instruction.”  It is not hard to understand that 9 times out of 10 they don’t follow through.  As much as I try, my daily speak is very indirect.  Unless, I get angry.  And well, that is for another confession post.

So, when I realized that time was marching onward and my (then) almost 9 year old daughter needed some instructions on puberty, purity and life in general I did what every mom does: I completely freaked out.

After my meltdown, I did the next thing every mom like me does.  I grabbed my dear friend and made her promise to go with me to hear a speaker named Julie Hiramine, of Generations of VirtueShe actually had a seminar prepared just for me. There were hundreds of other moms there, but make no mistake, it was just for me.  She promised in this one hour seminar to tell you exactly what to say and when to say it to your daughter about the above said subjects.  She even had books that you could buy and use when you were talking at just the right time to your daughter about said subjects.  She has 5 girls.  And I love her.

Since that day, I have for the most part followed Julie’s advice.  And I have to tell you, it has not been nearly as hard as I thought it would be.  She really makes it easy for you to be brave. I think my daughter is not really aware that I am still freaking out on the inside as I’m telling her about the coming wave of womanhood.  That, for sure has been the grace of the Lord.  My hope and prayer is that I can be her go to person for all her questions.  I know, that it is possible and probable that she will go to her friends for advice someday.   But I want to always be her first source.  I am so blessed to be able to do that for her.

Now, go visit Julie and check out her amazing website.  Go be brave.  I’ll be cheering you on!

And be sure to join other MODsquad moms over at the blog today as they link up and share how they are being brave!

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